It was something Andrew wrote - but I can't recall now just what it was - that made me think of writing (well, typing actually) this post.
When I commenced this blog just over six years ago I named it unimaginatively, after short consideration, Someone For Me, the name it continues to bear to this day. As an unattached man at the time I thought the blog might provide the opportunity to expand my network of friends and, in particular, to uncover that special someone to share my senior years.
Well, to date that special someone has not been revealed to me through the blog but I have made some fine new cyber friends; a few of whom I have met in reality and not just virtually. They include the aforementioned Andrew and his dignified partner R. Then there is Adaptive Radiation and his easy going partner Nathan. And I mustn't forget the gorgeous Evol Kween who sadly no longer publishes his blog but who still silently stalks mine (in the nicest way possible, of course).
I once sat next to 'Swede-ophile' James on a Sydney bus and we recognised each other from our blog photos and although our paths don't seem to cross otherwise I happily regard him as a friend as I follow his activities online.
There are others I haven't met in person who comment occasionally or email me and I value those contacts infrequent and virtual though they may be.
Maybe a Someone For Me will still emerge but I am content with my life and as the song goes, 'what will be, will be'.
Victor , what will be, will be - is the best sentence in life - in my opinion
ReplyDeleteIt is a good thought in many situations, Gosia.
DeleteI think I have met six people via my blog, including your charming and interesting good self of course, and all have been perfectly nice. But I find the experience very stressful, more so if R is involved. I'll be meeting a few more in a month or so. At times I wonder about not meeting people I could have and perhaps regret not doing so, but at times I am pleased I did not make the effort for some others.
ReplyDeleteBeing both cautious and shy by nature Andrew I haven't rushed to meet other bloggers but I have enjoyed the company of those that I have met.
DeleteHi Victor, I also thought somewhere deep in the back of my mind that maybe, through blogging, I might also meet someone to share the silences with. That hasn't happened, but I do enjoy reading about your life and that of others here online. Blogs tends to be a little more thoughtful than the short updates of social media.
ReplyDeleteJames, there is quite a diversity amongst the bloggers I follow that smashes stereotypes about gay lifestyles.
DeleteOne of the nicest aspects of meeting bloggers for the first time is that they already know your background story (warts and all). And subsequent meetings are a breeze.
ReplyDeleteI've only had positive experiences.
AdRad, the foreknowledge does help with those initial meetings.
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