tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post7226327554047087350..comments2023-12-21T21:03:45.616+11:00Comments on my ordinary life: Searching for myself...Victorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14778094395442538035noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-17824272941677514742008-12-11T23:24:00.000+11:002008-12-11T23:24:00.000+11:00Thank you for the post, got quite emotional. Yes, ...Thank you for the post, got quite emotional. Yes, it was a different age, the distant past - but so is yesterday. At least you knew he loved you, just had difficulty saying so. He ignored the "bad" things about you, saw you as his son, to love unreservedly. You are blessed.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15487594891655233790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-42955027278908534712008-12-11T03:43:00.000+11:002008-12-11T03:43:00.000+11:00It's good to see that side of you emerge from time...It's good to see that side of you emerge from time to time. It shows me that there is a man of substance behind this blog. Even if he is a stoic one. ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-47509387972961274932008-12-10T09:14:00.000+11:002008-12-10T09:14:00.000+11:00Andrew - it does seem more natural for fathers to ...Andrew - it does seem more natural for fathers to show their feelings nowadays.<BR/><BR/>Radiation - what a wonderful expereince for you. When we are growing up we tend to think that we invented sex and sexuality and that our parents couldn't possibly understand. It is as though children think their parents never experienced sex or sexuality themselves. All part of growing up, I suppose.Victorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14778094395442538035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-78191512398100002222008-12-10T08:52:00.000+11:002008-12-10T08:52:00.000+11:00When I was younger, I use to think that my dad did...When I was younger, I use to think that my dad didn't really know me very well at all. Then, a few years ago, when I felt comfortable with my sexuality and decided to come out to the world, I asked my dad to go with me for a walk and I told him I was gay just as we stepped out of the driveway of my parent's home. Not more than ten minutes later, he told me that the most important thing in life is to be happy and that includes finding a partner that I can be happy with. We talked and walked for for hours. It was the first genuine and honest conversation we had ever had with each other and made me realize that kids can be just as bad in under-estimating and misunderstanding their parents.Adaptive Radiationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02802440878512403627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-72919545859489781412008-12-08T23:39:00.000+11:002008-12-08T23:39:00.000+11:00We are of a certain age Victor. Fathers were a bit...We are of a certain age Victor. Fathers were a bit remote back then. I have had my own experiences along the same lines. Many present day fathers are great in that they connect with their kiddies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-64169291881776750852008-12-08T22:07:00.000+11:002008-12-08T22:07:00.000+11:00Evol - I posted my photo previously then chickened...Evol - I posted my photo previously then chickened out and deleted it. Could still chicken out again.<BR/><BR/>Most of my friends believe I look younger than my age but if it so then I cannot credit exercise or good diet. However I have been a lifelong non drinker and non smoker; this may have helped.Victorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14778094395442538035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-19130053516248119692008-12-08T21:54:00.000+11:002008-12-08T21:54:00.000+11:00I too feel like my father and I don't really know ...I too feel like my father and I don't really know eachother. It was his 63rd birthday yesterday, we had dinner tonight to celebrate. When I gave him his present, we both looked at each other, unsure whether to hug, and then we shook hands.<BR/><BR/>(PS is this post why you've decided to post your profile photo? I would never have guessed you were 59! )Evol Kweenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00358540740207597037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-48264219894223508972008-12-08T16:15:00.000+11:002008-12-08T16:15:00.000+11:00Thanks all for the generous feedback.Thanks all for the generous feedback.Victorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14778094395442538035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-15634779061483644402008-12-08T12:15:00.000+11:002008-12-08T12:15:00.000+11:00I cannot add to what has been said by the people a...I cannot add to what has been said by the people above but I will say thank you Victor for sharing a part of yourself with the rest of us. :)FireHorsehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06088252658641734673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-26829466598917304262008-12-08T08:41:00.000+11:002008-12-08T08:41:00.000+11:00It isn't necessary to say everything all the time,...It isn't necessary to say everything all the time, in fact sometimes its nice to keep an air of mystery around you, like BreenLantern I often wonder if I'm pushing too hard or saying too much. I know without a doubt though that I couldn't address such a delicate topic as gracefully as you just did. Your emotion and passion are evident in the things you write though, but perhaps as the critical author you're not so able to see them.The Mutanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16530361183787605299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-34183929827042189582008-12-08T03:24:00.000+11:002008-12-08T03:24:00.000+11:00Seems to be the morning of posts that choke me up....Seems to be the morning of posts that choke me up. I am both humbled and embarrassed to be mentioned here, but thank you. The silence many of us inherit and perpetuate is deafening to me and I hope by speaking out that maybe, just maybe, someone somewhere will hear the words they need to say but can't. So many others have said things I needed to say at times I could not say them myself...I need to pay it forward. Despite my fears that my posts are just ramblings of a self-absorbed cry-baby, your post has made me feel a little less uncertain about them. Thanks for that. Share what you need to, when you need to. Not everyone needs to reveal everything, and I enjoy what you have to say...enjoy who you are or become who you want to be....either way, I'll stick around!Breenlanternhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17317914861018120156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-26175519593393737502008-12-07T22:38:00.000+11:002008-12-07T22:38:00.000+11:00All that matters Victor is the knowledge he loved ...All that matters Victor is the knowledge he loved you, he addressed his father as "father", you called him "dad", the generations are changing, if he might have doubted your own love, your actions set him right.<BR/><BR/>Love is an action not a spoken thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5003118750661133842.post-50680006369507925952008-12-07T18:35:00.000+11:002008-12-07T18:35:00.000+11:00Fathers are a curious species, no? When I left fo...Fathers are a curious species, no? When I left for a year in Europe at age 21, my dad shook my hand. That's it.<BR/><BR/>He died very young and we never really knew each other except during my early years.wcshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00551283829616757577noreply@blogger.com